Lesson four

lESSON four

Keep Control Of Your Self

Avoid Problems

In lesson four, we are going to train you to avoid problems with adults. How? Practice being prepared for things that would usually upset you. By responding differently than you feel like reacting to parents, teachers, and other people who have power over you, you will keep control of what is happening.

From time to time, adults might tell you to do things that will interfere with what you are already doing or planning to do. When you get a surprise request that upsets your plans like, “I need you to help me clean up the house right now.” How can you be polite and respectful when a request like that will interfere with what you are doing or going to do?

1. You can choose to accept that sometimes you are going to have to do things when it’s inconvenient.
2. By allowing the inconvenience, you can do what adults ask with a positive attitude.

After helping, you can get back to what you want to do. Practice responding positively to parents, teachers, and others when they surprise you with a request, and you will stay in control of your Self and what happens.

Practice Lesson Four

By practicing these exercises, you will gain control over the unexpected.

1. When parents, teachers, or other people with power over you interrupt and ask you to do something for them right now, always choose to cooperate, be pleasant and respectful. Do what they want right now.

Exceptions – Don’t do anything illegal, dangerous, or too personal.

2. When parents, teachers, or other adults request you to do something during a time you have already made plans respond something like this – O.K. I would be happy to do that for you. I’m supposed to meet my friend at the mall at that time (or whatever plans you have), but if this has to happen now, I’ll do it now. Do you need me to do it right now?

Exceptions – Don’t do anything illegal, dangerous, or too personal.

3. Say this a few times in your mind or out loud when you are alone. “I accept that sometimes I will be inconvenienced. I will stay calm and do what I have to do so I can get back to what I want to do.”